Compromise

A lot of compromise is involved in planning a wedding. Unless you are marrying someone who has no interest at all in the appearance or events of your wedding day, you are going to want certain things, the other person is going to want certain things, and decisions are going to have to be made.

Ironically, though, the more I try to compromise, the more I'm finding we are spending. Some decisions are binary: you are only going to have one wedding reception, so you only get to choose one venue. Some things are geared more towards the bride or the groom, so it's clear who should make the decision: usually, the bride picks her dress, so there's not a lot of discussion from the groom involved.

Whether or not to spend $500+ for a limo, though, simply adds another line item to the budget and another vendor to worry about. It's a challenge to say I want decisions made so I don't have to handle everything, but I also want my wedding day to be as stress-free as possible. I want to make decisions now which will make the 48 hours leading up to my wedding very simple and straight-forward, where responsible people are taking care of things and I can just show up and say "It looks beautiful!"

There are so many details to spend money on for a wedding. I'd like to say that the ones I want are ones I can put in an expert's hands and trust that they will use them to best effect. I have a list as long as my arm of things I need to buy before the wedding, yet I keep yearning to simplify. If I'm spending money on something, I want someone besides me to know it's even there. Does any wedding guest really care about chair covers or fanciness of centerpieces or monogrammed napkins? Simplify, simplify, simplify.